Hello my name is Gem and I am the latest member of the myLovelyParent team. This is my family’s story and why I am so excited about my new role.
My Mum and I have always been very close - she brought me up on her own whilst studying and building a successful career. She spent most of my childhood focusing on these things and as I grew up I worried about her being on her own and I wanted her to be happy.
She met my Step-Dad online. At the time she had almost given up on finding someone to spend the rest of her life with, in fact she had reluctantly concluded that she never would. Her story started when a close friend of hers encouraged her to start online dating. She helped Mum setup a profile, and guided her through the do’s and don’ts.
I still remember how sceptical Mum was about going online to meet someone. She would ask me what I thought of her profile, potential dates, personal security and so on. I think having me around to check things with and someone who was a bit more confident using technology really helped.
After a couple of months not much was happening, so I stepped in. Mum’s subscription was up for renewal - she had given up and was about to close her account. I could see that she was not really using the site to its fullest, she was still nervous about approaching people, of course I knew that everyone is the first few times. I pushed her to just send a simple message to people she clearly shared an interest with.
Good job she did. We still talk about the moment she spotted my Dad with big “lols”. His profile included two really, terrible pictures - one showed him in full ski gear with full ski goggles in the middle of a group of other men who were also in full ski gear and goggles (which one was he?); the second picture was just as bad - him standing next to a huge ferry (big boat, tiny man!). Mum had no idea what he looked like but she could see how much they had in common so I persuaded her to write to him anyway and after a couple of emails and one phone call, they agreed to meet.
That was pretty much it for them and my Dad was thrown into the deep end of the ‘parenting world’ with me a new teenage daughter – two years later there was a wedding, followed by a fantastic honeymoon, eleven years later and they’re still very happy and best of all I don’t have to worry about either of them being lonely.
That’s the story of how my parents met and I hope through my work at myLovelyParent I’m able to see and hear more stories of children trying to help their parents find love.
You will see me regularly pop up across our Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr accounts. Matt and I really appreciate the support we have received for myLovelyParent so far and I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Gem Fiveash x
Today we have been celebrating Mothering Sunday or what we fondly call at myLovelyParent ‘Spoiling Mum rotten Day’. Whilst, like many of you, we have been juggling breakfasts in bed (cooked over zealously in some quarters of the mLP team), escorting elderly Grannys to the local pub for lunch, or wining and dining our mums in serious myLovelyParent-style, we have been keeping an eye on how you - our extended family - have been spending your day.
On Twitter we named our best ‘Mothering Sunday’ baker @TrulyRoo - who baked a rather spectacular gingerbread house. We have also spent some time speaking to some amazing Mothers and Children who have made this day really special for their loved ones.
At myLovelyParent we are like a big family - celebrating our single parents and endeavoring to find them love and companionship through www.myLovelyParent.com - it’s important to remember those of us who have lost important women in our lives, on this special day.
So, we joined many of you in showing our support for @Helpforheros #mumsaherobecause and @glamourmag #mumadvice. We found it inspiring to read the beautiful words you have used to describe your mother. Whether they’re beside you snuggled up on the sofa this evening, at the end of the phone or somewhere in the stars looking down on you - we hope you have had a truly wonderful day celebrating.
As always we like to end on a high. There are an awful lot of gorgeous, single, older mums at www.myLovelyParent.com who would really like to meet a strapping, older gent. If you think your parent would like to find love or companionship - sign them up today - and who knows, next Mothers Day your parent could be clinking glasses with another special person.
If you want any support, advice and all the other bits in between - please do get in touch, we would love to hear from you.
All our love
The myLovelyParent team x
We are listed at No. 6. Amazing.
Another very proud day for the myLovelyParent team.
Alright, alright, you’ve still got plenty of time. Mother’s Day is in fact March 30th (in the UK at least) so you still have over a month.
It’s just the cards are out already and the team at myLovelyParent are being contacted by various journalists who are looking to chat with lovely sons, daughters, mums and dads.
If you have an interesting story or would like to get involved in some fun PR then please do get in touch. We’d love to hear from you.
Oh and of course if you haven’t already signed your mum up to myLovelyParent…there’s no need to wait until Mother’s Day. The site is currently free to join and free to use so why wait?
We’re looking to chat with any of our members who have found love after the passing of their husband/wife for a very sensitive feature with Good Housekeeping.
Please do get in touch if you would like to be involved in this or any other media work. Every little helps get the word out there! You can email us at media@myLovelyParent.com
Great to see the interview of Maggie and her daughter Emily on BBC Breakfast yesterday.
So special to hear our members talking about the site and the goodness it brings to their lives.
Sadly there was no mention of myLovelyParent but hey, you can’t win them all right?
To watch this clip follow the link below. You’ll find Maggie and Emily if you scroll forward to about 1min 20secs…
A very Happy New Year to you all.
I can’t quite believe myLovelyParent has been up and running for a year now. To think a couple of years ago my mum asked if I could ‘help find her knight in shining armour’ and to be where we are now. Incredible.
I’d like to say a huge thanks to the thousands of sons and daughters who have signed their single parents up to the site. Without you spreading the word none of this would be possible. And to all the mums and dads who have taken the brave leap into online dating, thank you too.
We’ve kept a relatively low profile over 2013, mainly caught in a tricky place of both wanting to keep the site free (and therefore not having any money!) and trying to build the number of people on the site. And we’ve done alright. We now have close to 5,000 people on myLovelyParent. We’ve seen 100s of people get together and meet that someone special and 100s more who have found companionship through the site.
All in all it’s been a beautiful thing. Something I’m so incredibly proud of.
Over 2014 I’m determined for the site to grow much bigger. I will absolutely ensure it continues to be one of the safest online dating sites and I never want it to become one of those faceless, impersonal corporations. Actually on that note, if you ever do need to get in touch or have any questions then please know you can always reach me at matt@myLovelyParent. I work a full-time job (someone has to pay for all this!) but I’m pretty good at replying in the evenings or weekends.
Have a great New Year one and all and please do keep spreading the news about myLovelyParent. The more people we can encourage to sign up the better for everyone.
Thanks and take care,
If you’re in Australia and reading this make sure you tune in to Channel Ten’s ‘Wake Up’ tomorrow morning at 7.40am.
That’s where you’ll find Matt, myLovelyParent’s founder, being interviewed about online dating for older people. Nothing says holiday quite like heading into a TV studio early in the morning for a live, on-air interview.
To the lovely mums, dads, sons and daughters who have signed up to myLovelyParent over the past year, a very happy Christmas to you all.
It’s 6.30am. You hoped to sleep a little later but that was never going to happen. Not today.
You send them into Grandad’s room. Or is it Gradma who’s down? Either way it buys you a little time to shake off the thick head from the ‘reindeer’ drinks you left out last night. The morning passes with a mix of laughter, awkward thanks and infectious childhood excitement.
The turkey has been in a while. The potatoes prepped, just the veggies to go. Dinner is served.
A bottle of wine is opened, a round of crackers pulled. The conversation jumps from person to person. Stories are share. Some you’re sure you’ve already heard.
And then it comes up, you ask your mum, maybe it’s your dad, how they’re doing and whether they’ve met someone new. You know they’d like to and you’re worried asking might highlight another Christmas alone. They say no, somewhat resigned to this now being how life will be.
Okay, it’s fast becoming not the perfect Christmas. It’s actually sounding quite like a sad Christmas. Let’s take it back a couple of steps. The wine is opened, the crackers pulled and everyone is just starting to share the stories bit….
"Mum did you get the email from myLovelyParent?" you say.
"Yes my dear, I was going to ask you about that today. I wasn’t too sure what it was all about and I thought I’d wait for today to chat to you about it". (That’s how parents speak, right?)
And then you talk about it. You talk about it being a site where adult kids encourage their single older mums and dads online to help them meet new people. You can see the interest. You explain how it’s super safe and easy to use. Definitely interested. You offer that after lunch and when the kids are watching TV you’ll help complete their profile and see what lovely people are on the site…maybe there’ll be someone to say hello to.
There’s a smile and a nod. The stories continue, the day full of smiles and family goodness.
Yep, that’s definitely a more perfect Christmas. In fact who knows, maybe next year there’ll be a guest for Christmas.
An open fire, a glass of wine, maybe somewhere local, half way between both of you? Sounds pretty ideal.
Over past two weeks I’ve heard from 3 couples whose first meeting has been just this. And what’s more, they’ve all since left the website because they felt they may have met someone special.
There’s something magical about the winter but it can also be a particularly lonely time. The nights are longer, the evenings colder. Having now watched myLovelyParent through a full 12-months it’s fascinating to see how many more people sign up during the winter months. And to see how many more messages are exchanged between members.
I know this might sound like a clumsy pitch but I honestly can’t recommend it enough. It’s tough being single when you’re older. It really isn’t easy to meet new people and I just hope myLovelyParent can change all that.
There’s honestly nothing more beautiful than watching someone get excited about the possibility of meeting someone new; hearing when they’ve exchanged the first messages; learning they’ve decided to meet up. Then to hear they have no more ‘need’ for myLovelyParent - it really is the most rewarding thing I could imagine. Knowing that two people, often worried they may be single for the rest of their lives, coming together and enjoying many beautiful years together. Well, hopefully.
If you have a single mum or a single dad please check out www.myLovelyParent.com. If you have any questions please just drop me a line at matt@myLovelyParent.com.
BBC Breakfast filming booked for December 4th.
Will be screened as part of a New Year special.