As we have people on myLovelyParent from all around the world we thought it would only be right to feature one of our lovely mums from Canada.
We caught up with her daughter Nelly and asked her how she heard about us, why she thought it would be right for her mum and what advice she would give to anyone else thinking of signing up their mum or dad:
What’s your mum’s (first) name, how old is she and which part of the world does she live?
My lovely parent’s name is Lilia. She is 55 years old, and currently resides in Ottawa, the capital of Canada.
Tell us a little about her?
What’s the character limit for this question?! My mum’s a pretty interesting person, and one of the kindest people you’ll meet. She’s had a rather unusual life; growing up in what was then the U.S.S.R., marrying a foreigner, and living in various places around the world before we finally settled in Canada. She is very hospitable, always having a meal ready for those visiting our house, and will lend her ear to those seeking her advice or help. She is a very active, energetic and adventurous person, and the ultimate mother figure - a natural nurturer with a big heart and genuine desire to help those around her. Her passions shine when she is in the kitchen doing what she loves most, baking.
How did you hear about myLovelyParent and why did you sign her up?
I saw a tweet from the Guardian on Twitter a few months ago about a new dating website for parents. I curiously clicked to read the article, checked the beautiful website and decided to tweet @mylovelyparent to tell them that the idea was brilliant and I cannot wait for this service to be available in Canada. And this is why: When I read more about My Lovely Parent and its founder, Matt, his story about finding a partner for his mum instantly struck a chord with me. If he was anxious enough about her dating life to create a website that caters to this very niche group of online daters, then I was going to give his project a try and see if my mum can have a “happily ever after”.
I’ve always wanted mum to find someone to share her life with. She raised my sister and I by herself when we were both still in school, so I grew up watching her spend every waking minute and earned penny on our futures and education. That explained why she wasn’t really dating anyone, and focusing entirely on us instead. Now that we’re both adults taking care of ourselves independently, I felt that we should turn our attention to help her find someone great to share her life with. We are rather protective of our mum, and My Lovely Parent makes us comfortable with the idea that she can find someone online with our help. It’s not like other websites that send people to the dark and seedy corners of the Internet.
How did she react when she received the invitation?
She laughed and immediately asked me if there was a subsite called “my lovely kid”. Once she read through the site, she liked the idea of having a “co-pilot” when it came to navigating the world of online dating. She returned that same evening to create her profile, then asked me to check whether there were any typos or spelling mistakes.
What kind of person is she looking for and who do you think would make a good match?
I think my mum is looking for someone who shares similar interests and wants to experience his next stage of life with her. I think a person who approaches life with a sense of curiosity, has a positive outlook and appreciates the little things around will be a perfect match.
My mum is a friendly person, and likes to entertain and look after friends and family. Anyone who’s not interested in Christmas dinners, birthdays or family gatherings won’t be the right type.
But she’s also an active individual, who enjoys hiking, skating, swimming and other forms of outdoors activities, so her match would ideally enjoy the outdoors as much as she does. Honestly, we can hardly keep up with her sometimes.
What advice would you give to someone thinking of starting their own mum or dad’s profile?
I think before you create the profile or send an invite, you should approach your parent and bring up the idea of them looking for partners on the Internet. If they’re comfortable with this, then tell them about this great site that lets you help them find someone. If they’re uncomfortable navigating new websites or have some technical questions, offer your assistance in setting up their profile, adding a photo and deciding which top 5 qualities are most descriptive and genuine. Talk them through the questions the site asks, and help them look for the best ways to describe themselves. Those of us who had to talk about ourselves to strangers through bios, introductions and so on know how hard it is to summarize what makes you unique in a few sentences. Be patient and ready to answer their questions. Most importantly, be their personal cheerleader when they don’t feel particularly confident or hopeful.
Every week we plan to feature one of our members, written by their son or daughter.
If you’d like to submit a story about your mum or dad please get in touch with us at hello@myLovelyParent.com. We’d love to hear from you.